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Monday, October 21, 2013

To Be True

Happy Monday loves! I actually had something else in mind for today's post--a post about my birthday/weekend happenings and some lovely news about hubby's work schedule this coming year. But instead I'm writing this one about a topic that's really been bugging me lately and one that I really want some opinions on from all of my bloggy buddies. (*Read any input you can give me would be much appreciated.) 

How many of you started your blogs to keep family members up to date with your life? Probably a good portion of you, right? Welp, I must be weird because that is the exact opposite reason I started my blog. (If there IS anybody like me out there, please tell me! It would really help me feel less weird.) Yep you read that right, when I started my blog I pretty much had every intention of never telling anyone in my circle of family (except for the hubs of course) and friends about it. Note to everybody out there who wants to remain anonymous--don't link your blog Facebook page to your actual Facebook page, you will not remain anonymous for long if you do (yep, that's personal experience talking right there). 

Long story short, my days as an 'anonymous' blogger lasted exactly that--a day. Now there are at least four, if not more, RL people (ok so you are all real life people, duh, but that's the best word I can come up with for people I know in real life without being long and redundant) who read my blog and though that isn't very many in the grand scheme of things, that number is scary to me because it means my blog is no longer private. 
So I know what you're all thinking, this crazy lady actually thinks her blog is private? It's on the world wide web available for anyone with an internet connection to see! My sister-in-law pretty much had the same reaction when I asked her not to 'promote' my blog to her friends/family so y'all are not alone in thinking I'm weird. However, I do have a semi-intelligent thought process behind this--you see, the more 'real life' people read my blog, the more my blog becomes less me. 

I started this blog as a place where I could express myself freely, a place where I wasn't afraid to be myself and around people who didn't have preconceived notions about me. 

I started this blog for me--and it's fast becoming a place that I don't even feel comfortable in! I find myself second guessing whether to publish a post because someone I know might get offended or I find myself placing a filter on what I write because it might not coincide with certain people's views of me. Even as I'm writing this, I know that tomorrow I will be dealing with the backlash of this post and I'm not even sure how I'm going to deal with it yet but I do know it had to be said, as much for my peace of mind as for anything else. 

Well, my dear blog friends, if you made it to the end of this extremely long and rambling post, know that I will love you forever. When I first entered into this huge world we call Blogland, I never really expected to meet so many lovely ladies who I connected with or who I felt comfortable sharing with, but the fact that I have found them speaks volumes about how amazing our community is! 

So today I'm going to take a page from Dr Seus and make this my bloggy mantra--


How do you balance writing for yourself with writing for others?
If your family reads your blog, how does this affect your writing style? Do you find yourself censoring what you write for certain people? 

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Monday, October 21, 2013

To Be True

Happy Monday loves! I actually had something else in mind for today's post--a post about my birthday/weekend happenings and some lovely news about hubby's work schedule this coming year. But instead I'm writing this one about a topic that's really been bugging me lately and one that I really want some opinions on from all of my bloggy buddies. (*Read any input you can give me would be much appreciated.) 

How many of you started your blogs to keep family members up to date with your life? Probably a good portion of you, right? Welp, I must be weird because that is the exact opposite reason I started my blog. (If there IS anybody like me out there, please tell me! It would really help me feel less weird.) Yep you read that right, when I started my blog I pretty much had every intention of never telling anyone in my circle of family (except for the hubs of course) and friends about it. Note to everybody out there who wants to remain anonymous--don't link your blog Facebook page to your actual Facebook page, you will not remain anonymous for long if you do (yep, that's personal experience talking right there). 

Long story short, my days as an 'anonymous' blogger lasted exactly that--a day. Now there are at least four, if not more, RL people (ok so you are all real life people, duh, but that's the best word I can come up with for people I know in real life without being long and redundant) who read my blog and though that isn't very many in the grand scheme of things, that number is scary to me because it means my blog is no longer private. 
So I know what you're all thinking, this crazy lady actually thinks her blog is private? It's on the world wide web available for anyone with an internet connection to see! My sister-in-law pretty much had the same reaction when I asked her not to 'promote' my blog to her friends/family so y'all are not alone in thinking I'm weird. However, I do have a semi-intelligent thought process behind this--you see, the more 'real life' people read my blog, the more my blog becomes less me. 

I started this blog as a place where I could express myself freely, a place where I wasn't afraid to be myself and around people who didn't have preconceived notions about me. 

I started this blog for me--and it's fast becoming a place that I don't even feel comfortable in! I find myself second guessing whether to publish a post because someone I know might get offended or I find myself placing a filter on what I write because it might not coincide with certain people's views of me. Even as I'm writing this, I know that tomorrow I will be dealing with the backlash of this post and I'm not even sure how I'm going to deal with it yet but I do know it had to be said, as much for my peace of mind as for anything else. 

Well, my dear blog friends, if you made it to the end of this extremely long and rambling post, know that I will love you forever. When I first entered into this huge world we call Blogland, I never really expected to meet so many lovely ladies who I connected with or who I felt comfortable sharing with, but the fact that I have found them speaks volumes about how amazing our community is! 

So today I'm going to take a page from Dr Seus and make this my bloggy mantra--


How do you balance writing for yourself with writing for others?
If your family reads your blog, how does this affect your writing style? Do you find yourself censoring what you write for certain people? 

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Your comments warm my heart!! Leave one for me and I PROMISE to email you back (unless you're a no-reply blogger in which case please fix that)!!