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Wednesday, December 11, 2013

When Bloggers Bully {Cheers not Jeers}

Obviously this isn't exactly the post I was planning for today but something came up and it got me so upset that I couldn't help but write about it. Today I want to talk about bullying. 

Bullying has gotten a lot of media attention lately, especially in schools. That's probably the reason why when I think of bullies I think of children--the case that stands out most in my mind is the video of the school bus monitor being made fun of and laughed at because of her size and, well, pretty much everything. Everything about that video was appalling to me--how could kids ever be so cruel?? How could they believe directing their hurtful words at someone else was funny? Where were they learning that this kind of behavior was acceptable? 

Today I realized that bullying is not just confined to children--there are bullies right here in our blogging community. Women who sit behind their computer screens and type hurtful comments towards people they don't really know. Women who visit a blog simply to judge and make caustic remarks. Let me tell you something, ladies, NOTHING gives you the right to hurt someone else with your words.  

A lot of people seem to think that because bloggers write openly about their lives they are also opening themselves up to criticism. To a very minuscule extent that's true--there will always be people who disagree with you or your belief system or your life decisions and they will most likely voice their disagreement. That's fine--criticism is not bullying as long as it's done respectfully. 
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The relationship between blogger and reader, actually every relationship for that matter, is supposed to be a helpful one. We are supposed to be a community that builds each other up, not one that says hurtful things to each other. You can disagree with someone, you can even be legitimately upset with someone over how they handled a situation, BUT when that disagreement turns rude, impolite, and hurtful--you've stepped over a boundary. There is absolutely no reason ever to belittle someone's appearance, their family, their religion, or their choices in life--EVER. There is no reason to be catty to someone--it only shows that you are a jealous, bitter, or unhappy person yourself and why would you want to advertise that?? Why would you want to intentionally hurt someone by being petty and mean? Why would you want to attack someone at their most vulnerable level? How do you justify being a jerk to someone you've never met? 

I know that this post is a little different than what I usually write, but this subject has really been bothering me lately. Bloggers are writers. By profession we should know the power of the written word--every time we comment or email or tweet, we should realize that what we say has the potential to either hurt other people or to help them. We should always choose to help them. 

Ladies, blogging is so much more than just writing down our feelings and thoughts for the world to see; it's a chance to be a blessing to others. It's a chance to connect with people we would have never met otherwise, to encourage each other, to be there for someone when they're going through a difficult time. I find it so heartbreaking when a blogger gives up something they love because of a few cruel people.  If you can't say anything good, than don't say anything at all. What you say affects people! 



Some of you might have guessed the reason this post was written and might even know who I've chosen for this week's Cheers not Jeers linkup. I'm not mentioning her by name today because I don't want to cause her any more heartache than she's already been the victim of. This blogger is such a sweet and genuinely amazing woman; her blog has been a blessing to me more than once and I know it has touched many of her other readers. Hers was the first blog I followed and pretty much the encouragement I needed to start Army Ever After. I just wanted to send cheers her way, a big thank you for how much she's influenced me and my little blog, and wish her and her wonderful little family all the best as they prepare for the next chapter in their lives. Hugs and prayers from me to you, friend. 



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Wednesday, December 11, 2013

When Bloggers Bully {Cheers not Jeers}

Obviously this isn't exactly the post I was planning for today but something came up and it got me so upset that I couldn't help but write about it. Today I want to talk about bullying. 

Bullying has gotten a lot of media attention lately, especially in schools. That's probably the reason why when I think of bullies I think of children--the case that stands out most in my mind is the video of the school bus monitor being made fun of and laughed at because of her size and, well, pretty much everything. Everything about that video was appalling to me--how could kids ever be so cruel?? How could they believe directing their hurtful words at someone else was funny? Where were they learning that this kind of behavior was acceptable? 

Today I realized that bullying is not just confined to children--there are bullies right here in our blogging community. Women who sit behind their computer screens and type hurtful comments towards people they don't really know. Women who visit a blog simply to judge and make caustic remarks. Let me tell you something, ladies, NOTHING gives you the right to hurt someone else with your words.  

A lot of people seem to think that because bloggers write openly about their lives they are also opening themselves up to criticism. To a very minuscule extent that's true--there will always be people who disagree with you or your belief system or your life decisions and they will most likely voice their disagreement. That's fine--criticism is not bullying as long as it's done respectfully. 
Source
The relationship between blogger and reader, actually every relationship for that matter, is supposed to be a helpful one. We are supposed to be a community that builds each other up, not one that says hurtful things to each other. You can disagree with someone, you can even be legitimately upset with someone over how they handled a situation, BUT when that disagreement turns rude, impolite, and hurtful--you've stepped over a boundary. There is absolutely no reason ever to belittle someone's appearance, their family, their religion, or their choices in life--EVER. There is no reason to be catty to someone--it only shows that you are a jealous, bitter, or unhappy person yourself and why would you want to advertise that?? Why would you want to intentionally hurt someone by being petty and mean? Why would you want to attack someone at their most vulnerable level? How do you justify being a jerk to someone you've never met? 

I know that this post is a little different than what I usually write, but this subject has really been bothering me lately. Bloggers are writers. By profession we should know the power of the written word--every time we comment or email or tweet, we should realize that what we say has the potential to either hurt other people or to help them. We should always choose to help them. 

Ladies, blogging is so much more than just writing down our feelings and thoughts for the world to see; it's a chance to be a blessing to others. It's a chance to connect with people we would have never met otherwise, to encourage each other, to be there for someone when they're going through a difficult time. I find it so heartbreaking when a blogger gives up something they love because of a few cruel people.  If you can't say anything good, than don't say anything at all. What you say affects people! 



Some of you might have guessed the reason this post was written and might even know who I've chosen for this week's Cheers not Jeers linkup. I'm not mentioning her by name today because I don't want to cause her any more heartache than she's already been the victim of. This blogger is such a sweet and genuinely amazing woman; her blog has been a blessing to me more than once and I know it has touched many of her other readers. Hers was the first blog I followed and pretty much the encouragement I needed to start Army Ever After. I just wanted to send cheers her way, a big thank you for how much she's influenced me and my little blog, and wish her and her wonderful little family all the best as they prepare for the next chapter in their lives. Hugs and prayers from me to you, friend. 



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