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Friday, January 3, 2014

Take the Quiz!!!!

About a year and a half ago, a month or two after our wedding, Zach and I were able to go on a marriage retreat here on the island. We got to stay in the most beautiful suite in a gorgeous hotel right on the beach in Honolulu and had three glorious days of relaxation and fun--it pretty much felt like a honeymoon in paradise (well except for having to spend around 6 hours in marriage classes every day--that was sorta un-honeymoon-ish)
More important than the location or the room though was what we learned from the chaplain who spoke at the retreat. He tackled the harder aspects of marriage, especially a military marriage, with humor and on the last day of the retreat he had each couple fill out a Love Language quiz. 
I was already familiar with Dr. Chapman's love languages because my mom and I both read the book 'The 5 Love Languages of Children' when I was younger. But, just in case you, like my hubby, are not, the five love languages are: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Of course, all five are important but there are usually one or two that are a person's primary way of communicating love. You can take the online version of the quiz right here

My primary love language is quality time, with words of affirmation and physical touch tied for second. In a nutshell, than means I feel the most loved when the hubs and I spend some time just the two of us. It's also important to me that hubs tells me that he loves and appreciates me, a major bonus if that comes with a hug and kiss. The other two were at the very bottom of my list which doesn't mean that they're not important just that I don't use them as much as the other three. 

I felt like I already knew what Zach's answer to the quiz would be and I was partially correct. His primary love language is acts of service (not that surprising because he's a very actions-speak-louder-than-words type of person). Physical touch came a very close second but, what I wasn't prepared for was receiving gifts coming in at number three. That's two out of his three top languages that are in my bottom two!!! Pretty much that means that we both have to work extra hard to make sure the other feels loved.

Alright so on Friday, I talked a little about the 5 love languages- words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, physical touch, and acts of service. I also told y'all how the hubs and I took the test and encouraged all of you to take it too. 

The more I thought about that post over the weekend though, the more I didn't really like the test I'd linked to--I felt like it pinpointed more what you wanted your spouse to do that he or she didn't do instead of actually determining your primary love language. That, coupled with the fact that after taking the test 3 different times, hubs and I got three completely different results, prompted me to search for the original love languages quiz found in Gary Chapman's book. Turns out you can find it on the website under the singles quiz, which is definitely the one that I'd recommend instead of the couples quiz. As you can see, quality time and physical touch are at the top of both of our profiles which is a little different from what we'd gotten before. These results will be the ones I'll be going with because they just seem more real to us. 


Next week I'm going to share with you how I'm putting my knowledge of the love languages into practice and at the end of the month, I'll be linking up everything I've learned from the 5 Love Languages book with the Meaningful Marriage Book Study with Amberly and Sarah

Right now though, I'd love it if you hopped on over to this site and took the language quiz for yourself (even better if you can get your spouse to take it too!)!
What's your love language? Did one of your or your spouse's languages surprise you? 


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Friday, January 3, 2014

Take the Quiz!!!!

About a year and a half ago, a month or two after our wedding, Zach and I were able to go on a marriage retreat here on the island. We got to stay in the most beautiful suite in a gorgeous hotel right on the beach in Honolulu and had three glorious days of relaxation and fun--it pretty much felt like a honeymoon in paradise (well except for having to spend around 6 hours in marriage classes every day--that was sorta un-honeymoon-ish)
More important than the location or the room though was what we learned from the chaplain who spoke at the retreat. He tackled the harder aspects of marriage, especially a military marriage, with humor and on the last day of the retreat he had each couple fill out a Love Language quiz. 
I was already familiar with Dr. Chapman's love languages because my mom and I both read the book 'The 5 Love Languages of Children' when I was younger. But, just in case you, like my hubby, are not, the five love languages are: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Of course, all five are important but there are usually one or two that are a person's primary way of communicating love. You can take the online version of the quiz right here

My primary love language is quality time, with words of affirmation and physical touch tied for second. In a nutshell, than means I feel the most loved when the hubs and I spend some time just the two of us. It's also important to me that hubs tells me that he loves and appreciates me, a major bonus if that comes with a hug and kiss. The other two were at the very bottom of my list which doesn't mean that they're not important just that I don't use them as much as the other three. 

I felt like I already knew what Zach's answer to the quiz would be and I was partially correct. His primary love language is acts of service (not that surprising because he's a very actions-speak-louder-than-words type of person). Physical touch came a very close second but, what I wasn't prepared for was receiving gifts coming in at number three. That's two out of his three top languages that are in my bottom two!!! Pretty much that means that we both have to work extra hard to make sure the other feels loved.

Alright so on Friday, I talked a little about the 5 love languages- words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, physical touch, and acts of service. I also told y'all how the hubs and I took the test and encouraged all of you to take it too. 

The more I thought about that post over the weekend though, the more I didn't really like the test I'd linked to--I felt like it pinpointed more what you wanted your spouse to do that he or she didn't do instead of actually determining your primary love language. That, coupled with the fact that after taking the test 3 different times, hubs and I got three completely different results, prompted me to search for the original love languages quiz found in Gary Chapman's book. Turns out you can find it on the website under the singles quiz, which is definitely the one that I'd recommend instead of the couples quiz. As you can see, quality time and physical touch are at the top of both of our profiles which is a little different from what we'd gotten before. These results will be the ones I'll be going with because they just seem more real to us. 


Next week I'm going to share with you how I'm putting my knowledge of the love languages into practice and at the end of the month, I'll be linking up everything I've learned from the 5 Love Languages book with the Meaningful Marriage Book Study with Amberly and Sarah

Right now though, I'd love it if you hopped on over to this site and took the language quiz for yourself (even better if you can get your spouse to take it too!)!
What's your love language? Did one of your or your spouse's languages surprise you? 


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