Hi there! My name is Amanda and I have a little blog called Marry Mint (you may have noticed me hanging out on Elizabeth's sidebar for the past month.)
I started my blog to share my story and show the world that life can go on after cancer and be damn good! I love to blog about my daughter, our two dogs, life in Alaska, shopping and everything in between.
Something I rarely discuss though, is what life is like being married to a soldier.
I think it's about time I cracked open that can of worms!
My experience so far has been that my husband is gone. ALOT!
I know that everyone's job and situation is different, but so far Kyle has either been away at a school or in the field for the better part of his career.
There are 9 million reasons why this completely blows, right?
But, I'm all about silver linings, so we are going to talk about why all of this time apart is AWESOME.
1. save money : I don't know about your husband, but I know Kyle EATS. Our grocery budget almost doubles during the pay periods he is home. Also, how many energy drinks or snacks from the gas station on post does one person need?! Bottom line-- if he's not home, he's not spending money which means...
2. more money for me : kidding, kinda. I think that when your husband is away you should be able to make a Pity Purchase, right? ;) Get your nails done. Buy a new top. After all, you just know there will be some kind of problem with the house, car, kids, etc. while he's gone. So, buy yourself something nice.
3. time to spend on you : I like to take advantage of times when Kyle is away to really work on myself. By that I mean; dive deeper into your hobbies, spend time with your girlfriends, squeeze in an extra work out, whatever. Not to get super heavy, but being happy as an individual goes a long way when your spouse is in the military.
4. time to do something for your spouse : While Kyle was away at Ranger School I learned that writing him letters and mailing him care packages probably helped me more than it helped him. I missed him less while I was writing or shopping for him. So, now when he is away training or whatever it is they do, I make a list of things that either he needs or that I want to do for him while he's gone. I slowly cross items off of that list until it's time for him to come home.
5. your house will be clean (er) : This requires no explanation. If your husband is anything like mine he is messy/dirty and brings 9,872 gross things home from work.... but not when he's gone :)
and a little tip for good measure:
*forget about the calendar! Kyle's unit likes to put out a training calendar for the families to reference. Rarely do things actually go according to their schedule. Until Kyle calls me from the car saying he is on the way home; I try not to think about it.
I hope you are having a fantastic week!