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Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Confessions of a MilSpouse (Stephanie from Army Crafter)

Hey y'all! I am Stephanie, and I blog over at Army Crafter. I am so excited to be guest posting for Elizabeth as she is gallivanting around Hawaii with her sister! I am super jealous!
I blog about being an Army wife, a puppy mom to two boxers, and the crafts that distract me from all that life brings. I hope to see you over there sometime!
I have a few confessions that I want to get off my chest, which is why I am here.
Elizabeth and I both are military spouses, so I figured I would share some thoughts I have regularly about being a MILSO with you.

So here are my confessions...

1. It hurts my heart when people think my life is just like an episode of Army Wives. I am here to tell you it is not. 
army-wives-blog
Because this is totally what me and my fellow spouses look like on a regular basis
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2. I feel like an endangered species sometimes with the way people react when I say I have a career let alone a Master's degree. FYI, there are many spouses that have careers! I am not an anomaly. Women can have lives outside of the Army. We all have our own identities with careers, kids, hobbies, etc. While the military is part of us, it doesn't define ALL of us. And we can be individuals away from our spouses. Shocker I know.

3. After 2 years as a MILSO, I still don't know the acronyms of the Army or most of the technical details. Every day I feel like I learn something new about the military lifestyle. This is a big reason why I started my Armucation series on my own blog.

4. I often hear, "I could never do what you do as an Army spouse." First of all, what do I say to this? Thanks? Secondly, I want people to know that we are real people and have real life problems too. We aren't some special breed. Most of us signed on to this life because it is just part of who our spouses are. Growing up, I was one of those people who said I would never EVER get involved with someone who was a police officer, fire fighter or in the military. I would say you never know who you will end up with, and sometimes you make sacrifices that you never dreamed for the ones you love. And you do it because you love them and you can't imagine your life without them. Most people are stronger than they give themselves credit for. I think anyone can be part of a military family if they were with the right person. Also for the record, I married a person who at one time was a volunteer fire fighter, is now in the Army, and who was in law enforcement when we met and wants to be a police officer after we are done with the Army. So clearly my wisdom as a child worked out for me...So you never know what you are capable of until you are in that situation. I sure didn't. But I do appreciate the sentiment all the same, I just never really know how to react to those comments.

5.  I still have boxes that we haven't unpacked. I think it is the plight of the military family. Who knows if they will ever get unpacked, or if they will just wait until our next move.
Moving_Boxes___Packing_Material
I think we need to downsize...
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6. Goodbyes never get easier even if we have to do them a lot in the military. You just learn different techniques to deal with it more effectively. But then again, we are human still and sometimes emotions get the best of us.

7. I call all of Tom's friends by their last name. Some of them I don't even know what their first name is...

8. While being a MILSO has made me even more patriotic than I was before, I still have never shot off my own fireworks on the 4th of July. The only thing I have ever done is sparklers. I know lame. And my husband blows things up for a living...

9. I actually like living on post! I know there is a stigma out there about base living, but we have had nothing but a positive experience living within the confines of the base.

10. Which leads me to my last confession. Not every military experience is the same. Each family has their own baggage; each base and branch have their own baggage. When you stir all that up, you have a lot of different stories that can play out. Don't be afraid to ask us questions, but also be leery about making assumptions about us. We all have our own story to tell.
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Thanks Stephanie! I couldn't agree more with all of these!!
Don't forget to head on over to Army Crafter and show Stephanie some love!

Are you a MILSO? Do you have any confessions to add?

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Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Confessions of a MilSpouse (Stephanie from Army Crafter)

Hey y'all! I am Stephanie, and I blog over at Army Crafter. I am so excited to be guest posting for Elizabeth as she is gallivanting around Hawaii with her sister! I am super jealous!
I blog about being an Army wife, a puppy mom to two boxers, and the crafts that distract me from all that life brings. I hope to see you over there sometime!
I have a few confessions that I want to get off my chest, which is why I am here.
Elizabeth and I both are military spouses, so I figured I would share some thoughts I have regularly about being a MILSO with you.

So here are my confessions...

1. It hurts my heart when people think my life is just like an episode of Army Wives. I am here to tell you it is not. 
army-wives-blog
Because this is totally what me and my fellow spouses look like on a regular basis
image via
2. I feel like an endangered species sometimes with the way people react when I say I have a career let alone a Master's degree. FYI, there are many spouses that have careers! I am not an anomaly. Women can have lives outside of the Army. We all have our own identities with careers, kids, hobbies, etc. While the military is part of us, it doesn't define ALL of us. And we can be individuals away from our spouses. Shocker I know.

3. After 2 years as a MILSO, I still don't know the acronyms of the Army or most of the technical details. Every day I feel like I learn something new about the military lifestyle. This is a big reason why I started my Armucation series on my own blog.

4. I often hear, "I could never do what you do as an Army spouse." First of all, what do I say to this? Thanks? Secondly, I want people to know that we are real people and have real life problems too. We aren't some special breed. Most of us signed on to this life because it is just part of who our spouses are. Growing up, I was one of those people who said I would never EVER get involved with someone who was a police officer, fire fighter or in the military. I would say you never know who you will end up with, and sometimes you make sacrifices that you never dreamed for the ones you love. And you do it because you love them and you can't imagine your life without them. Most people are stronger than they give themselves credit for. I think anyone can be part of a military family if they were with the right person. Also for the record, I married a person who at one time was a volunteer fire fighter, is now in the Army, and who was in law enforcement when we met and wants to be a police officer after we are done with the Army. So clearly my wisdom as a child worked out for me...So you never know what you are capable of until you are in that situation. I sure didn't. But I do appreciate the sentiment all the same, I just never really know how to react to those comments.

5.  I still have boxes that we haven't unpacked. I think it is the plight of the military family. Who knows if they will ever get unpacked, or if they will just wait until our next move.
Moving_Boxes___Packing_Material
I think we need to downsize...
image via
6. Goodbyes never get easier even if we have to do them a lot in the military. You just learn different techniques to deal with it more effectively. But then again, we are human still and sometimes emotions get the best of us.

7. I call all of Tom's friends by their last name. Some of them I don't even know what their first name is...

8. While being a MILSO has made me even more patriotic than I was before, I still have never shot off my own fireworks on the 4th of July. The only thing I have ever done is sparklers. I know lame. And my husband blows things up for a living...

9. I actually like living on post! I know there is a stigma out there about base living, but we have had nothing but a positive experience living within the confines of the base.

10. Which leads me to my last confession. Not every military experience is the same. Each family has their own baggage; each base and branch have their own baggage. When you stir all that up, you have a lot of different stories that can play out. Don't be afraid to ask us questions, but also be leery about making assumptions about us. We all have our own story to tell.
  558603_947483947981_1740061319_n

Thanks Stephanie! I couldn't agree more with all of these!!
Don't forget to head on over to Army Crafter and show Stephanie some love!

Are you a MILSO? Do you have any confessions to add?

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