I'm so excited to be here at Army Every After guest posting! I'm Jordan from DJ Petersen Stories and I am going to give some tips on marriage or any kind of relationship for that matter. I've only been married just over a year and a half and sometimes I feel silly for giving people advice because I haven't been married for too long. BUT The first year of marriage is a HUGE learning curve even if you have been dating for a long time and I have a lot of advice to give!
A few months back I wrote a few tips about marriage, you can read those here.
I am going to add a few more to these..
#7. Watch out for word vomits. I am STILL working on this one... Sometimes, okay well a lot of the time, I don't think before I say something. The things I say can come across hurtful, when I legitimately don't mean for it to be hurtful! Then I have word vomit and try to make it better when it probably makes it worse... So, THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK!
#8 Only think positive thoughts about your spouse. It is important to only think AND say positive things about your spouse. I'm not perfect at this but I feel that 99% of the time I'm good at this. If we start to only think negative things about our spouses, our mind can actually start believing them. This will only hurt the relationship.
#9. Yours, mine and ours. This one was tricky for me to get used to... Especially with money. I was so used to saying, "Well that is MY money, not yours." It is important to not be selfish in any kind of relationship and to realize that once you are married... EVERYTHING is shared, be as selfless as possible
#10. Emotional and Physical attention. This is pretty obvious... If emotional need are not being met, then a relationship will quickly spiral downward. The same goes for physical attention! There needs to be some kind of connection to keep a relationship going and I think BOTH of these need to be coincided in order to have a successful relationship.